I'm not talking about outer space here; I'm approaching today's topic as energetic spatial awareness. Today, I want to propose a question; When you meet someone, do you allow them to be who they are, or do you see them as you want or imagine them to be?
Do you know how you can tell which it is?
When engaging with someone and they respond to a situation or question and it isn't the way you thought, do you seek to correct them or think to yourself; you liar or yeah right.
Now, I'm not talking about people whom you know are not safe energetically, but someone new or a person you may not know well or haven't had a real conversation with. Are you allowing them to show up as themselves? What about people you may have known years ago, who say they changed? Do you have the ability to take them at their word and witness the new person they claim to be?
Once again, I am not advocating for putting yourself in risky situations here. But I am asking if you can see them, as they are.
If we think someone is a flake, let's say... you are going to move in response to the projection you have shrink wrapped them with. It may be acting flippant yourself, or being short with them or changing your mind and being indecisive. Because you are moving from a space of believing that they are flaky. You already have your mind made up that they are, so you are watching what they do down to their micro movements, awaiting the final judgement that you were right. Gawd forbid we are ever wrong about someone, right?
Can you see how this is going to play out? We really don't know people unless you allow them to show up as they are, and we can't do that unless we have healed a lot of our traumas and hurts. It's simply impossible.
I am at a phase in my life now where I am opening myself up to meeting new people again from a place of purity and curiosity, like a child. I don't want to make friendships out of trauma bonds like I was taught to. I don't want to see women as backstabbing as it had been my previous experiences. I don't want to meet men and await the piggish response or their emotional unavailability. I'm not interested in any of that stuff anymore. I don't play on that playground anymore.
I am moving from a space of, still having my energy reader activated, as in, are they safe? But I am being open to being surprised by who they are. I want to ask questions. I want to be curious. I want to find commonalities based on building a life i desire, rather than bonding over the havoc some "jerk" wreaked in my life. Can you see the difference in the quality of relationship that would make?
So, once again dear reader, when you meet someone or maybe even hang out with someone you already know, who will you see standing before you? The "them" you think they are? Or the " them" they actually are?
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